Hi there blog friends. Hope you are having a wonderful weekend! Thanks for bearing with me on my roller coaster of getting back to normal. What is normal anyways, right? Behind the scenes I’ve received some emails from some very intuitive people and I for one welcome the prayer. Lately I’ve tried to tackle some of the hard things I’ve put off and I guess, much to my astonishment, they are hard. I’ve learned that grief is a little bit like a jack-in-the-box, popping out when least expected. Frankly, I think I’ve been too busy this year to notice – so during some recent down time I’ve been a little bit surprised. It doesn’t help that one of the old doctors is putting through charges from 2008 – way past the expiration date for insurance filings. Had they been put through on a timely basis, they would have been paid and of course at this late date they are all denied. Worry!! I’m having to jump through hoops just to even talk to the insurance company about what’s still coming because the information is protected by law although they will look to me to pay. Isn’t that ironic? I can’t talk to you about it but please pay it? Well, I’m giving myself a little break – and although some cannot relate to how long it takes – I’ve promised myself that steady and sure, this too will pass (in its time). So how about a card that did my heart good today?
This months releases from Our Daily Bread Designs all center around sewing and I found this sentiment to be inspirational to me today; it is from the Full Of Grace Collection called Quilter. I took the edge of Spellbinders Grand Labels Twenty Three to cut the flap at the top of the card. Then I took one of the elements from Spellbinders Twisted Metal Tags and Accents and backed it with Spellbinders Lotus Pendant. To bring an element to the bottom of the page to balance out my tall 5 1/2″ x 7″ card, I made a ScorTape Flower. Oh my, I haven’t done one in a while and I don’t know why!! I love this flower because you can make it any size (diameter) you choose. I’m working on making a little stash of them to have on hand, in fact. I wound this one around a pearl brad rather than try to set the brad in later – aha moment!! I finished the card off with one of my favorite bows (tutorial coming soon) and two pearl pics.
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| Stamps: Our Daily Bread Designs – Quilter Paper: My Minds Eye – Lost and Found Ink: Versafine Onyx Black Accessories: Spellbinders Grand Labels Twenty Three, Spellbinders Twisted Metal Tags and Accents, Spellbinders Lotus Pendant, Pearl Brad, Seam Binding, Pearl Pics |
I’m touched . . . truly touched, by the emails I receive and the people who stop by to visit with me. It’s something I’m thankful for and pray about every day. Thank you for being there for me – what I give is so small compared to what I receive.
You make the most beautiful cards, I am always so inspired after visiting your blog. I love the colors for this card and the bow is amazing
Becca, I feel blessed stopping to visit your blog. Beautiful card.
Praying for you right now, Becca. I can’t even imagine the grief that you are walking through. You will make it one step at a time! Your card is absolutely beautiful and I love the sentiment, too.
Becca you’re in my thoughts and prayers. I’ve been here daily wondering if you were ok…I’m glad to know you are.
In my state, you are not responsible for bills submitted after six months. Check into that! I was surprised to find that out.
You don’t need more stress. I keep you in my prayers.
Becca, God will walk with you through this doctor bill thing. It may take time but this to shall pass.
Beautiful card. I’ve stopped being amazed at the things you share. I am eternally in awe.
Hi Becca, have missed you these last few days, keep your pecker up girlie you’ve been doing so well :) Just love todays card so pretty & (as always) inspirational xx
Becca, Anyone in your family or church who is in the legal profession? I think some of those bills might not have to be paid now. At least that was the case with my dad. The insurance company will listen to a legal person quicker in either case.
prayers for you – I can empathize. It is amazing how Satan can throw things in your path to trip you up when you least expect it. You can contact the Attorney General for your State and also the Insurance Commissioner. In fact, the mention of the fact you are considering contacting the Insurance Commissioner for your State for unfair and unethical practices will probably change their minds.
Hi Becca,
Like others I have been logging in and wondering if you were okay. My prayers are with you and I trust the Lord will help you in your dealings with all this. Yet another beautiful card. As a needlewoman as well as cardmaker I love all these ODBD sentiments. xx
Becca, if those bills are in your husbands name only, you are not responsible for them, regardless of what they say. When my 1st husband died, as a good wife, I made sure everything was paid and later found out I was not responsible for them. 2nd husband died, and I checked with an attorney and did not pay for his bills. They may hound you about it but you ARE NOT responsible. Consult with an attorney.
Praying for a fast resolution to your issues!
Becca, I will be praying the hospital bills are resolved with no financial consequences to you since they came so late!! I somehow missed your
tut on the Scor-tape flower–this is adorable and looks easy so I will be
giving this a try real soon. Just seeing this card lifted my spirits today as I have had a very stressful week. Thank you and God bless.
I will pray for this issue with the bills, Becca.
I don’t think that is legal at all. At least in Canada it isn’t.
I agree with the others – contact an attorney.
You don’t often talk about yourself. I know how it is with grief, I hope you have a close friend you can talk to.
Beautiful card as always!
Love and soft hugs coming your way.
Another beautiful card- I am glad it comforted you some. I hope the insurance company will not give you too much grief and pay the claim! {HUGS}
My prayers are with you. The same things happened after my mother-in-law passed away. Persevere through it; don’t give in to them to easily; challenge their requests. We had to ‘threaten’ with attorney sounding letters and we also found out that there are limitations to how long they can take to submit their bills – so check that out as other bloggers have mentioned. You don’t need these additional stressors, but unfortunately, it seems like that’s the way our society works. Hang in there Becca, one day at a time.
I believe God puts the people in our lives for a reason. A kind word here, a ear to listen, or a gentle soul to share with.
It is a true blessing- I can’t tell you how many times you have shared and I was going through a similar experience. Validation seems to always comfort.
Take care sweetie, and thanks for always inspiring.
Have been told that those ah-ha moments do occur often during those first few years. I pray for you and know that our dear Lord has you in the palm of his hand. Memories only go so far but sometime they will comfort you. Your talent with making cards and the greatest bows ever, bring a comfort to you that will forever be there. God has seen to that. Please know we all love and respect you so much Becca. God bless and keep inspiring us as we hope and pray we can inspire you with our prayers. ekc
I agree with the other comments; fight them on those charges & don’t give in. Seems it’s all about “them” and not about the surviving parties — NOT fair at all. Our health benefits are paid in a timely fashion (or we’d be cancelled) and then we suffer when they choose to delay and/or not even share information concerning what insurance was paid to cover! Sad how our world works these days.
Considering what you give us, Becca, you must have some truly awesome comments/prayers/good wishes/sweet hugs sent your way and I’m sending all those your way now, hoping it truly helps! Also trying to wrap my head around how you made that seam binding Scor-tape flower? When my project is done, I’ll have to look at your tuts again.
Beautiful card with a very sweet sentiment. I like your card very much Becca, beautiful colors chosen and I like how you tied the ribbon at the top. I also love it when you use the stick-pins, always a nice touch. Beautiful work. As always Becca, TFS!!! :-D
Hi there Becca,
Just stopping by to say hello and to see your lovely cards.
I know it can be very frustrating to deal with insurance companies…As others have mentioned, make sure they are even allowed to wait this long to bill – I’ll be they’re over the limit on that!
Meanwhile, I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers with the hope that everything turns out well for you!
As always, thank you so much for inspiring us with your GORGEOUS projects and cards!!!
(HUGS)
Barb G.
This is a really special card. I love the sentiment about God being a quilter. Great card, great sentiment! Keep it up, girl!
Becca, I love your card and makes perfect sense to me.
I totally understand what you are talking about in your today post.
I really admire you the way you have kept up with your blogging.
When my Sweetheart passed away, (Unexpectedly…aortic aneurysm)
I almost totally shut down.
I had similar problems with the bills and I finally handed them over to my attorney and he fix them right up.
Some say you just have to keep on keeping on, but my body refused.
Nobody knows until they go through it.
It will be 4 years since my sweetie has been gone.
Six months ago my Sisters Husband passed away, and every time we talk or are together, she tell me she understand now how I feel.
I will keep you in my prayers and
God Bless you Becca!!,
Beautiful card and beautiful sentiment Becca. I will continue to pray for you Becca, for wisdom and healing.
Hang in there Becca. God doesn’t give us any more than we can handle. Your card this time is truly beautiful.
I am with the others who have written about the legality of billing so late! I worked for a doctor, and we had to bill within 90 days. Don’t let them get to you! You have been such a shining example of God’s sustaining power over this last year (since I found you) or more. Keep your eyes on Him, and He will never let you down. As someone else said, this too shall pass. I just had my husband in the hospital (again) so I can relate. Hang in there, girl! We’re all praying for you!
Becca,
Contact your state insurance commisoner for help. It may be illegal in your state to pull this. Ran into this recently myself and they threatened me like you would not believe. Then I threatened to call the state insurance commisioner and suddenly the charges went away. If they think they can get away with it they will try. Let them know you know your rights.
PS – I forgot to comment on your beautiful (as usual) card. The sentiment made me think of the illustration that God is weaving a tapestry. We see the underside, with the knots and loose threads – not very pretty. But He sees the top – the perfect side. We will see it someday, but in the meantime we have to trust Him that He’s weaving something beautiful out of our days! Never forget that! And know that you are prayed for!
How ingenious to use the Labels Twenty-Three corner at the top of your card! You are so inspiring!
Becca:A friend of mine who used to work in insurance told me that bills received over 1 year after treatment does not have to be paid because bills must be submitted in a timely manner. Check if you can.
Love the card! Please know you are in my daily prayers and I will put your name on our prayer list at Church. It can’t hurt!!!!
I’m so sorry Becca for all the worry and upsetting frustration that you are going through. Your faith is so strong and I know that God will see you through this time. Release your cares to Him. I will life you up to Him for your peace and healing. {{Hugs}}
I hope everything works out for you as you are such a beautiful lady and you deserve a break. I always enjoy your cards and look forward to seeing your Becca bits and tutorials. I can tell you like to please people because you always think of your fan base when you should be thinking of yourself. Take care and good luck!
I agree with the ladies who have suggested that you see if someone in your church has the legal background to assist you with regards to the bills that have come out of the woodwork well after the deadline. You need someone who can act on your behalf to wade through the muck and mire that this is going to be so that it doesn’t keep bringing your grief to the forefront. They will also carry a larger stick than you will and will also know what is legal and what isn’t. But keep the faith because there is someone watching over you now and he won’t let you down.
Your card is exquisite as always. I love the sentiment and the layout is gorgeous.
Hugs!
Cec
Oh Becca you have spoiled us with your daily posts so when you don’t post we worry about you and I for one say an extra prayer that you are well. I’ve checked your blog several times hoping FeedBlitz had somehow missed me. So glad you are physically okay. I pray the Lord will bless and comfort you.
Please contact your state insurance commissioner about those bills, a lawyer would cost you more money but the commissioner shouldn‘t. This may make you smile. When my son was ten yrs old HE got a bill from a collection agency. HE hadn’t paid HIS hospital bill from THE DAY HE WAS BORN. I nearly fell out of my chair. Ten years, are you kidding me and how would a ten yr old pay such a big bill anyway. Luckily I am dreadful about cleaning out our files. I still had the receipt to prove the bill had been paid in full.
Your card is delightful as always. Love the colors and love seeing that flower again. You can be such a tease, I look forward to your bow tutorial.
Blessings Bernie
Dear Bekka – grief is a journey and one cannot speed through it – but be assured we are praying. What a difficult thing to have to deal with – late account demands grrrrrrr – it would not make your journey any smoother!!
Hang in in there.
Blessings
Maxine
This is very inspiring, Becca.
Prayers for comfort and strength.
Becca your work is always so beautiful, you are truly a inspiration. I do believe that God doesn’t give us anything that we can’t handle. Just follow your faith and all will be well.
First off, I’ve been where you are. I lost my husband to cancer in March 2009. What was real ironic is I worked in the IT department of health insurance company so I really watched the claims close. Be sure and use a grievance committee if the insurance company has one. Make sure they understand the issue with the doctor. If the doctor is in network, maybe they can put pressure on him too as they can always threaten to drop the doctor from the network. Don’t forget to copy the insurance company, medical boards of your state, and state insurance regulators on any correspndence. I really think the doctor’s office should cut you some slack too as they should have been doing some timely filing. You probably can find out from the insurance company what they would have paid and definitely don’t pay anything to the doctor over that amount. Utilize public opinion against the doctor’s too. Go to any TV stations that will help.
One real quick story. My husband’s cancer said it came from somewhere else and we had to find it. So my husband’s urologist ordered a PET Scan. Of course they had to pre authorize it and it came back denied. Come to find out the doctor’s office filed the wrong codes saying that my husband’s bladder cancer had come from his colon. My husband had just had a colonscopy and all was clean. Once I got the doctor’s office to submit the claim correctly, we were able to get the PET scan. So hang in there.
Yes, it’s been two and half years since Frank passed away, but occassionally I still will have the tears start at a certain memory. That’s when I have to pray to God and tell him thanks for helping me to remember that moment in time and please comfort me. It has gotten easier. Also remember there is no set time to be over your grief. It will happen when it happens.
I’ll pray for you. God Bless and thanks so much for all the card designs you share with us your followers. I know that making cards was the first hobby I got back to after Frank’s death. FYI…I didn’t get a chance to really start grieving until late June of 2009 as I also was diagnosised with cancer 3 weeks after my husband’s death. I’m blessed as it was caught at stage 1 and was uterian cancer. After a hystercomy I’m clean and have had clean check up since.
Becca, you have such a beautiful and caring heart. You should not have to put up with this insurance demand. I hope some of the suggestions above that have been made by your fans will resolve the situation.
In the meantime, thank you so much for yet another gorgeous card.
Keeping you close in prayer, Harriet in NC
Becca,
Your card is beautiful as usual and you are such a special person to share your creation with us even when you are so stressed! I think Medicare requests to be filed within 48 hours but technically there isn’t any time limit but it just makes it more difficult to get them to accept it. Also, other insurances want it filed within 72 hours, but if it isn’t timely filed due to a mess-up at the office they usually write it off. If they are calling you please tell them not to call and to send any and all correspondense in writing. After you get statements you can notify them that you are contacting a lawyer in regard to their bills and taking all the statements with you. I don’t know how the laws are in Florida, but in Tennessee a spouse has legal rights to their deceased spouses medical records. You may have to take a copy of his death certificate with you to prove that you are his legal representative. I hate you are having to go thru all this mess after all this time and I know it makes all the pain fresh again but please know that you have a lot of shoulders to lean on or cry on any time you need them and even if it is only cyber friendship you are loved and supported!
Sending you prayers and hugs,
Lenoria
Oh Becca, I’m sorry to hear how you’ve been struggling! I HATE calling the insurance company for ANYTHING!!!!!!!!!!!! We’ll be praying! NEVER FORGET, GOD IS IN CONTROL!!!!!!!!!! Dive DEEP into reading Gods’ Word! It WILL help you in the grief that is seems to be erupting & will calm you in this time of struggling with the insurance company! AND ALWAYS have Praise Music on too!!!!!!!!! Believe me, God WILL ANSWER!!!!!!!!!!!! Hugs & Prayers!!!!!!!!!!!!!
BEAUTIFUL CARD!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I LOVE the green you used & the ribbon flower! LOVE those little green dots!!!!!!!!!!! :)
This is really a beautiful card!
What flawless artwork! Looks as if you’ve rec’d lots of great advice. Help is available so seek it out. You are loved & admired!!!
Beautiful card Becca. I love the somber colors of the paper you are using. It is alittle different from your norm and probably reflects your mood of late.
I am extremely sorry that you are having to deal with all of this at this time. Just when you think the worst is over, it comes back like a bad penny. There is no justice in this and if it were me, I would think about talking to a lawyer. It just doesn’t seem right that they can come back on you just because they did not take the measures needed in a timely manner with what ever insurance company that you were dealing with at the time.
But, I know what a strong woman you have been and just want to say that now is not the time to give in. As much as you hate dealing with this, get mad and stand your ground. Do not let them take advantage of you and if you just can’t muster the strength let someone else like your family step in to fight for your rights. John would not have wanted you to have to still be dealing with this on your own, I am sure of that. I will say a little prayer for you. Hug’s,
Marcie
Becca,
So sorry you are going through such insurance nightmares. Gail gave excellent advice, especially about the state medical board and the local news station’s investigative team. First I would start with the insurance company’s network rules. The doctor (if in network) could have agreed to timely filing (which he apparently did not) and it may have some bearing. Ultimately you will be responsible if you cannot find a broken rule, but I would have an attorney advise me before I gave up and just paid. And that doctor would be all over the news if it were me. That is just poor business to wait a year or whatever to file. How would you know he was even planning to file? We will all pray that you resolve this in the easiest way possible. I know God will comfort you and give you the strength to see this through. God bless and keep you.
such a lovely card and i do agree with the sentiment, i’ve said for many years that our lives are like a crazy quilt – no real pattern but beautiful and odd fabrics brought together with interesting and different threads and stitches.
and i agree with such wise counsel you have been given. ask your pastor for someone who can help. one woman in our church was such a fierce advocate for her husband who had multiple and prolonged health concerns. he has passed away but her gift of battling the medical and insurance companies has helped others in our congregation. i hope and pray there is someone who will help you shoulder this battle. do not let satan win. we will pray that you will be covered by the whole armour of God.
Becca,
I know about grief. I lost my husband of 48 years in Jan. of this year. He passed away from a cerebral hemorrhage. He fell in the bathroom floor at 3:30AM on a Sunday morning and died at 12:30AM the following Tuesday morning. He was my best friend and the love of my life. I still cry daily bcause I miss him so much but I know that he is in a better place and I will see him again one day.
Sundays are one of the worst days of the week for me because unless one of us was not feeling well, we went to church together and now I have to go alone.
This morning I awoke with the grief stricken feelings that I experience quiet often and it seemed that everything went wrong while trying to get ready for church. I was almost late but did get there just in time. The message was taken from Matthew 11:28 – 30 (verse 28) Come unto me, all ye that labour and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. (verse 29) Take my yoke upon you, and learn of me; for I am meek and lowly in heart: and ye shall find rest in your souls. (verse 30) For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light.
This message was just what I needed and my day did go better after beign reminded that God is always there for us and gives us rest when we go to Him.
I want you to know that when I check in and see your lovely cards, it does brighten my day especially knowing that you are still grieving for John. I know that God gives us grace and helps us through each day. Don’t hesitate to let your feelings be known as it reminds us to pray for you.
God bless you Becca and as always, todays card is beautiful.
Faye
I love this card. My mom is a quilter, seamstress, crafter extraordinare! This sums up exactly how she must feel. Thank you.
Praying for you during this difficult time. You truly inspire us.
Lovely card. Actually, you are probably not responsible for those bills so go through your lawyer if you have one.
Lovely card and I wish you patience with those bills. My Mom was in a nursing home before she died from Alzheimer’s and we received a bill 2 1/2 years after her death from her podiatrist-care cost was $75.00 but late fees expected from their delay in submitting a timely bill- $5,000.00.(a little note to them from our lawyer resolved the issue quickly) The grief from the death of a loved one was one thing to handle, but billing issues are bothersome.
Keeping you my prayers.
Becca, I’m so sorry you are having these issues with the insurance company. I don’t think it is right or legal for them to wait so long to send the bills and I don’t believe you are obligated to pay them. The added burden of this on top of your grief is just cruel and I wonder at the heartlessness of people who would do this. I pray for you and I pray for the strength to also pray for the ones who are doing this to you. I don’t have it yet, but God does.
Hugs!
Dearest Becca,
I can totally relate to the grief you’re going through now. And I must tell you, that no matter how long ago it all occurred you will always miss the Love of your Life. My husband died of a brain tumor 20 years ago and even though I’m now married to a wonderful man, I still miss Tom.
I’ll pray that somehow the financial question is solved. That, on top of everything else, is a low blow that you don’t need right now.
My love, Nancy
Bless you Becca. Beautiful card as always. Dianne
You inspire me by your beautiful cards. Sorry you are having to deal with these issues after your husband has been gone for awhile. God will bring you through this and you will be stronger on the other side. I will keep you in my prayers.
Dear Becca ~ thinking of you while you walk through your grief, and that you have to deal with monetary issues during this difficult time. How sweet of you to share such a beautiful card while you have such sorrow in your heart and troubles on your mind. Remembering you in prayer. Take care.
Love the card, Becca. Polka dots are my favorite and love the sentiment panel and your flower. So sorry to hear about the insurance woes. Glad others have walked that path and can give you some advice. Grief takes time, I’ve seen my mom go through it with my dad’s passing five years ago. Every once in a while something just hits her. Nothing to be ashamed about, just shows how deep the love was (((hugs)))!!
Yes, Becca, grief can be sneaky. Seemingly out of the clear blue sky, something will strike you and it’s all fresh and new again. Just remember that time does heal and He won’t give you more than you can deal with. (I know you just wish, sometimes, that He didn’t have so much faith in you!) Can a Dr even do that? If it’s so late that the insurance doesn’t have to pay, why should you?! I’d speak to a lawyer or accountant before I gave ’em a dime! Another gorgeous card and I’m looking forward to the new bow!
Hang in there,
Hugs,
R/
I pray that God will take the burden of these bills from you Becca. I understand your grief and know that everyone has these moments. Know that you are in many hearts and prayers.
Always keep a copy of any correspondence you send to insurance company or doctor and send by “certified/return receipt requested” mail so they can never say they didn’t receive it since you will have the receipt to prove it. I made the expensive mistake of not doing that once. Everyone who has lost a close loved one understands about the grief that pops up when you least expect it, even years afterwards. Thank you for continuing to share your wonderful talent with us, but take time for yourself whenever you need it.
Grief is just our missing our loved one so much. But trust in the Lord’s promise and know you will be reunited one day in Heaven. And don’t worry about those bills, turn your worries to God, He will deal with it. You take care of you. God bless you Becca.
Isn’t it crazy how those bills can just pop up after such a long period of time has elapsed? Even more crazy is that the insurance company won’t talk to you, even though you’re the only one they CAN talk to! I’ve had that situation come up, too, since my husband became ill, where he just wasn’t in any condition to deal with whatever company it was; fortunately, it’s always been resolved, and I haven’t had to pull out the Power of Attorney, but I’m sure it will eventually happen. I’ll be praying for a quick resolution for you. Meanwhile, I’m glad you have your cardmaking and other hobbies to distract you (in a good way). I’m sure I speak for all your readers when I say that we appreciate all the time and energy you put into your blog which enables us to learn so much from you.
Prayers are coming your way..It does not help to worry; however, it is easier said than done. Becca ~ I have been a subscriber to your blog for a long time, I have not commented much because I work full time and do not have time, but your creations are amazingly beautiful…and I love getting that email from you. Again, you are in my thoughts and prayers about this latest event….hugs
Hi Becca
I’m new to your blog and fabulously beautiful work but you have been so inspirational to me on so many levels. What a special person you are. Your blog title is so very apt as you certainly have amazing grace. I don’t know what your troubles are but I get the gist – someone else’s incompetence is costing you – monetarily, emotionally, spiritually – and you have to ask yourself why. I know you have so many prayers coming your way. Take care of yourself. Best, Karen x
Shame on that doctor! Insurance companies make more than enough each year, let them soak up the bill for their contribution of GOODWILL. I agree with so many…talk to a lawyer. They usually make good money too ! Sending lots of HUGZ and prayers your way!
prayers going up for you, hang in there
Becca, I’m so sorry for your worry and heartache. I was receiving bills for almost two years after my Mother died. Everytime I got one, it just brought everything she went through and my loss of her right back. I can’t add much to what all these wonderful ladies have posted, but I would check with someone as to your responsibility. That’s a very long time to have waited before posting bills. God bless you. You are in my prayers!
I can think of words to say to both that doctor and insurance company but rather I will offer my prayers for God’s grace and peace to surround you. Because God blessed us to be a blessing and because you are a blessing, I expect Him to come through for you with abundant blessing!
So sorry to hear about the rough time your having with the insurance company, and how slow the doctor is being, sometimes you just can’t beleive how they do things. Pray you can get those times that help you get away from all the problems and just have some enjoying times.
Lovely card, pretty layering for the sentiment and love your flower
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Keeping you in my prayers. Thanks for sharing your beautilful cards.
Grief is all it’s cracked up to be, isn’t it. The experts say that we can take on grief only when the initial shock has subsided. It can take months or even years for us to feel the beginning of grief. Fortunately, the beginning of feeling our grief is also the beginning of healing.
Many of your followers have offered excellent advice on how to deal with the unexpected bills and uncooperative (& unfeeling) insurance company. A professional can be invaluable to go to bat for you when you’re fragile. It’s always darkest before dawn. Hang on Becca. This too will pass.
Lastly, you’ve created another beautiful card. I hope you don’t feel obliged to make them for us. Take all the time you need to mourn; please don’t hurry it. I wish I could shoulder some of your pain, but we know it doesn’t work that way. So I’m praying often and hard for you. Love, Francie
Oh Becca – I am so sorry for all the worry you are going through. I’m in the UK, so don’t have any knowledge about how to tackle this, but be assured, I shall remember you in prayer and look forward to the time when it has all been settled.
Thank you for lifting our spirits on an almost daily basis. You have such a generous spirit and your creations are amazing!
Hugs
Anne (UK) x
Becca, I’m sorry you have to deal with this stressful issue. I’m also sorry I don’t have any advice for you in this matter (I am in Canada and the health care system is totally different). Hugs to you!
Bless you dear Becca, sometimes it seems never ending doesn’t it? I certainly know the feeling. I still have my Bruce but we don’t know for how long. He has suffered so and it keeps my heart in pieces but I do know that God would not lead me to it without helping me thru it. I pray that things get better for you real soon. This lovely card is a heart lifter, so pretty.
Becca, it’s so difficult to understand why such problems are thrown in our laps such as these medical bills, that clearly should not be allowed to be billed at such a late date. Having dealt with a chronic illness for more than 20 years, plus dealt with a 7 year lawsuit for the car accident that caused it, and so many stresses along the way, I can relate to your stress and frustration. I’ll be praying that God will work out each detail of this and any other situations that come your way. God has promised to walk beside us, and to carry us when we’re too tired as well. I can’t even imagine coping without my Savior, and know He’s been your strength as well.
Isn’t it such a wonderful way to relax, making a card! How I love waiting for your e-mails to arrive, I learn so much from you and feel so blessed to have been led to your site. Thank you so much for sharing all you do with all of us–spiritually as well as your creative genius.
When you feel discouraged, know that so many of us love you, and respect you for your love for our Savior and Lord, and for your wonderful testimony. Grief takes many twists and turns, just when you think you’re doing better, then something comes right out of left field that can potentially knock you down, but because you trust your Lord to see you through this, you give us all the fantastic example we need, you’re such an effective role model in so many ways, and we’re all SO proud of you, Becca.
Love from your sister in Christ,
Joanne
I may be a little late here….just wanted to say I am with you. I lost my husband last winter after a long battle with illness and now there are lawyers involved. somehow they want thousands of dollars when there is one one thousand left. grief will never leave me, but I would like things to calm down.
I just saw your post about untimely filing on medical charges. In Tennessee if your health care provider files your charges “untimely” the health care provider cannot bill you. Check with your state’s insurance commissioner. Love, love your cards.
Love your beautiful card. Also, sent you an email regarding your doctors late billing. Hope it helps.
Becca–I look forward to everyone of your posts–your talent is definitely God-given and I am so glad that you share it with all of us! Prayers to you that you feel God’s loving arms wrap around you and hold you up during the challenging times!